Break through: I don't really want a boss. I just want to collaborate. I told this to Erika. Her response: "And? This is news? On what exactly might you be collaborating?."
Note to self: I don't have a boss. I'm unemployed, or in my 7th year of maternity leave, or a housefrau--depending on how I spin it.
When I fill out the 'parent's job' line on forms, I write "freelance". It's vague, but cool.